If you read the previous post. Yes, my mother cannot keep her mouth shut... Yes i did say "Chicks before dicks" because, guess what, it's true! And now that the whole "crush" thing is resolved, my mom can stop digging into my life. Do you really expect an almost 14 year old (in 6 days) to tell their mom a lot of stuff? If you answer yes, then you might want to actually have a 14 year old daughter. yes, middle school drama sucks.
And, well, we all know why mom was a late bloomer *cough cough*.
OH, almost forgot to mention.....Has my mom ever told you the story of Berkly Edwards? Hm... interesting story. Ask her about it sometime.
Saturday, October 30, 2010
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Taylor is going to kill me...
...but since i only have 5 followers, i figured i would share this cute story with y'all (and NOT post it on facebook....although i really want to!)
So yesterday in an effort to "talk" with my kid about boys, sex, etc (see previous blog), i asked her if she liked anyone. She said yes and then went into a story of how middle school is so hard because people gossip, etc. Apparently she likes a boy, who is the same boy that her best friend, Cali, likes. Oh no! To me, immediately, i thought that was a HUGE problem. I love Cali to death and know that something stupid like a boy crush could ruin their friendship. I remember my best friend from 7th grade very well (Lindsay Mellon) but couldn't even begin to remember who i dated at that time (or if i even dated...i mean, i had my first kiss in 9th grade...i was a late bloomer).
So, i kinda tip toed around the issue for a bit, asking Taylor if it was serious, did she really like him, did Cali like him, etc. And then told her that friendship was more important than boys.
And she goes "i know mom, chicks before dicks."
.................my jaw dropped. And then she says, "kinda like bros before hoes, except it is chicks before dicks."
DID THAT REALLY JUST COME OUT OF HER MOUTH!?!?!?!?!?
So yesterday in an effort to "talk" with my kid about boys, sex, etc (see previous blog), i asked her if she liked anyone. She said yes and then went into a story of how middle school is so hard because people gossip, etc. Apparently she likes a boy, who is the same boy that her best friend, Cali, likes. Oh no! To me, immediately, i thought that was a HUGE problem. I love Cali to death and know that something stupid like a boy crush could ruin their friendship. I remember my best friend from 7th grade very well (Lindsay Mellon) but couldn't even begin to remember who i dated at that time (or if i even dated...i mean, i had my first kiss in 9th grade...i was a late bloomer).
So, i kinda tip toed around the issue for a bit, asking Taylor if it was serious, did she really like him, did Cali like him, etc. And then told her that friendship was more important than boys.
And she goes "i know mom, chicks before dicks."
.................my jaw dropped. And then she says, "kinda like bros before hoes, except it is chicks before dicks."
DID THAT REALLY JUST COME OUT OF HER MOUTH!?!?!?!?!?
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
sex-ed and the media
Growing up my parents limited the amount of tv us Lambert kids watched. 3 hours a week. That is it. You go to a movie, it counts as 2 hours towards the 3 hour limit. While all my friends watched Yo Mtv Raps and saved by the bell, i was stiffled by my tv limitations for what i watched.
I thought it was "unfair" and that my parents were "lame" and were trying to make us "bored."
And as i have been raising my own daughter, i swore i didn't want to limit or restrict her the way my parents did. Because of this, she has grown up watching tv shows with me on a nightly basis- some good and some not so good. Examples:
The good:
-Gilmore Girls- our lives- not a lot of sex- and it is wholesome. i love it
-Friends (?)- TBS plays reruns for a hour a day. it is a cute show, a few sexual references but nothing to get upset about
Secret Life of an American Teenager- can we say my life again? good show, good underlying themes and always talks about safe sex.
The not so good:
-90210- my latest obsession- watch it monday nights religiously. addresses things like sexting and rape (good) but also promotes the glam life, drugs, and sleeping around (bad)
-Grey's Anatomy- will forever love it. the characters are evolving and growing up this season which is good but it does promote sleeping around in a hospital setting (which NEVER happens)
The bad:
-Jersey Shore- it really is my only bad habit. it is like a train wreck that i can't look away from. GTL. Sleeping til 2 pm and partying til 5 am. "the situation" scamming on women. i love it. and unfortunately so does tay...
Unfortunately, our tv is providing our children with ample sex-ed. And the vast majority of it is not age-appropriate, and it’s not even responsible. 70% of the programs that our teens are watching contain some sort of sexual content. That’s a lot of casual sex and sex without
consequences. Sadly, only 14% of television shows portray responsible sexual
behaviors, meaning the sexual content includes references to the risks of STDs or the risk of pregnancy. Since some kids aren’t getting sex ed in school, most teens are using the media as their textbooks on sex, love and relationships. As parents we need to help our kids have a healthier view of sexuality than what they are seeing on a daily basis.
I thought it was "unfair" and that my parents were "lame" and were trying to make us "bored."
And as i have been raising my own daughter, i swore i didn't want to limit or restrict her the way my parents did. Because of this, she has grown up watching tv shows with me on a nightly basis- some good and some not so good. Examples:
The good:
-Gilmore Girls- our lives- not a lot of sex- and it is wholesome. i love it
-Friends (?)- TBS plays reruns for a hour a day. it is a cute show, a few sexual references but nothing to get upset about
Secret Life of an American Teenager- can we say my life again? good show, good underlying themes and always talks about safe sex.
The not so good:
-90210- my latest obsession- watch it monday nights religiously. addresses things like sexting and rape (good) but also promotes the glam life, drugs, and sleeping around (bad)
-Grey's Anatomy- will forever love it. the characters are evolving and growing up this season which is good but it does promote sleeping around in a hospital setting (which NEVER happens)
The bad:
-Jersey Shore- it really is my only bad habit. it is like a train wreck that i can't look away from. GTL. Sleeping til 2 pm and partying til 5 am. "the situation" scamming on women. i love it. and unfortunately so does tay...
Unfortunately, our tv is providing our children with ample sex-ed. And the vast majority of it is not age-appropriate, and it’s not even responsible. 70% of the programs that our teens are watching contain some sort of sexual content. That’s a lot of casual sex and sex without
consequences. Sadly, only 14% of television shows portray responsible sexual
behaviors, meaning the sexual content includes references to the risks of STDs or the risk of pregnancy. Since some kids aren’t getting sex ed in school, most teens are using the media as their textbooks on sex, love and relationships. As parents we need to help our kids have a healthier view of sexuality than what they are seeing on a daily basis.
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
You should write a book...
....I get told this at least once a week. But it goes more like this: "your life is so interesting/complicated/confusing/drama-filled, you should write a book!"
I think most of those people are referring to the fact that i had a daughter in high school and yet, somehow, but the grace of God (and a lot of help from my family), i graduated from high school, then college, then med school, then residency, and now am in fellowship. To me, it really isn't a big deal- i know it isn't the norm to have a baby in high school and then become a doctor but i didn't really have any other option. So i know that my life isn't quite "normal" but what is "normal" anyway?
You see, i wanted to be a doctor since i was 2. Yes, at the ripe age of two i told my parents that i wanted to be a "blue" doctor. My dad, a ENT physician, wore blue scrubs, hence the blue doctor. I went to the hospital with my dad on Sundays before church to watch him round, i learned to suture on my stuffed animals in middle school, and while people were being social in high school and doing fun after school activities, i was doing research with a plastic surgeon. lame. i know.
And then, one month after i turned 17, my period was a day late. one day. and i knew, i just knew deep in my heart that i was pregnant. the next month was a constant battle with my morals, trying to decide whether a baby would factor into my future plans or if i should just "take care of it." I can only say that a Divine intervention by God (and that is a whole other story) stopped me 4 hours short of getting an abortion. so because of that choice (which was the right one), i started the journey that i am still on today.
People (friends, family, teachers) told me that i wouldn't amount to anything since i had gotten pregnant at such a young age. They said i would be "barefoot and pregnant" for the rest of my life and that i would be lucky to finish high school. I think because of this, i wanted to be a doctor EVEN MORE. I was determined. I was going to prove them wrong.
Fast forward 14 years. Yes, my daughter is about to turn 14 and while when you get pregnant you realize you are going to have a baby, you don't realize in that moment that the baby is going to grow up into a person. In my case, a person who can get their learner's permit in 1 year and can wear the same size shoe as me. Crazy. This 14 year journey has led me from my hometown of Charlottesville, to college at Duke, and then to the city i call "home." Here in Charleston i went to medical school, met my future husband, completed an Internal Medicine residency, and am now in my 1st year of fellowship. I have made mistakes along the way, i have also had some really good times and some really bad times, and through it all, i have grown up into an adult (finally)...i think.
Maybe i should jump on the "teenage mom" bandwagon and write a book. I am not sure what i would say or who would even buy my book, but i do know i have lots to say.
:)
I think most of those people are referring to the fact that i had a daughter in high school and yet, somehow, but the grace of God (and a lot of help from my family), i graduated from high school, then college, then med school, then residency, and now am in fellowship. To me, it really isn't a big deal- i know it isn't the norm to have a baby in high school and then become a doctor but i didn't really have any other option. So i know that my life isn't quite "normal" but what is "normal" anyway?
You see, i wanted to be a doctor since i was 2. Yes, at the ripe age of two i told my parents that i wanted to be a "blue" doctor. My dad, a ENT physician, wore blue scrubs, hence the blue doctor. I went to the hospital with my dad on Sundays before church to watch him round, i learned to suture on my stuffed animals in middle school, and while people were being social in high school and doing fun after school activities, i was doing research with a plastic surgeon. lame. i know.
And then, one month after i turned 17, my period was a day late. one day. and i knew, i just knew deep in my heart that i was pregnant. the next month was a constant battle with my morals, trying to decide whether a baby would factor into my future plans or if i should just "take care of it." I can only say that a Divine intervention by God (and that is a whole other story) stopped me 4 hours short of getting an abortion. so because of that choice (which was the right one), i started the journey that i am still on today.
People (friends, family, teachers) told me that i wouldn't amount to anything since i had gotten pregnant at such a young age. They said i would be "barefoot and pregnant" for the rest of my life and that i would be lucky to finish high school. I think because of this, i wanted to be a doctor EVEN MORE. I was determined. I was going to prove them wrong.
Fast forward 14 years. Yes, my daughter is about to turn 14 and while when you get pregnant you realize you are going to have a baby, you don't realize in that moment that the baby is going to grow up into a person. In my case, a person who can get their learner's permit in 1 year and can wear the same size shoe as me. Crazy. This 14 year journey has led me from my hometown of Charlottesville, to college at Duke, and then to the city i call "home." Here in Charleston i went to medical school, met my future husband, completed an Internal Medicine residency, and am now in my 1st year of fellowship. I have made mistakes along the way, i have also had some really good times and some really bad times, and through it all, i have grown up into an adult (finally)...i think.
Maybe i should jump on the "teenage mom" bandwagon and write a book. I am not sure what i would say or who would even buy my book, but i do know i have lots to say.
:)
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
i'm obsessed with my crock pot
Yes, i will admit it. I am obsessed with my crock pot. And i am ok with that.
You can't really complain when you throw some meat, veggies, broth, and a few spices into the pot, set on low before you go to work, and then when you come home, the house is filled with the wonderful smells of dinner. "Set it and forget it."
I love it.
It is so easy, so effortless, so wonderful.
I spend at least 30 minutes (ok...maybe a hour) during work searching for fun new recipes to try with my crock pot. I have even been making two copies of each one so i can share with my SIL's boyfriend. On a side note, i am glad she has someone to cook her good meals...and it is double bonus if those recipes come from me!! But yes, i will admit that i like looking for recipes....a lot.
The only down side of using my crock pot is the irrational fear it creates each time i use it. I worry that it is going to cause a fire and my house will burn down....with my dogs (and clothes, and shoes and all my possessions) inside. I know it is a silly fear but nevertheless, it is something that gives me an ulcer each time i cook with my crock pot.
However, the benefits outweigh the risks, so i continue to cook. Saying a quick prayer each time i turn it on and then hurry out the door.
You can't really complain when you throw some meat, veggies, broth, and a few spices into the pot, set on low before you go to work, and then when you come home, the house is filled with the wonderful smells of dinner. "Set it and forget it."
I love it.
It is so easy, so effortless, so wonderful.
I spend at least 30 minutes (ok...maybe a hour) during work searching for fun new recipes to try with my crock pot. I have even been making two copies of each one so i can share with my SIL's boyfriend. On a side note, i am glad she has someone to cook her good meals...and it is double bonus if those recipes come from me!! But yes, i will admit that i like looking for recipes....a lot.
The only down side of using my crock pot is the irrational fear it creates each time i use it. I worry that it is going to cause a fire and my house will burn down....with my dogs (and clothes, and shoes and all my possessions) inside. I know it is a silly fear but nevertheless, it is something that gives me an ulcer each time i cook with my crock pot.
However, the benefits outweigh the risks, so i continue to cook. Saying a quick prayer each time i turn it on and then hurry out the door.
Sunday, October 17, 2010
perfect sunday night
It has become a "family" tradition to watch America's Funniest Home Videos each Sunday night on ABC.
I remember watching it as a kid with my mom, dad, brother and sister. And watching it was a huge privilege as my parents only allowed us to watch 3 hours of tv a week. That's right- three hours. And it wasn't three hours the whole week. We weren't allowed to watch tv during the week except for NCB nightly news. THEN we had 3 hours of tv total to divide between friday, sat, and sun. If we went to a movie at the movie theater, then that counted for 2 hours. My parents were strict!
And don't even get me started on our weekly National Geographic reports.....
I am not that strict with Taylor. The tv was my best friend while i was at Duke because i was able to sit her in front of the tv and turn on Beauty and the Beast (her fav movie) and she would be entertained while i studied. I swear, we watched that movie at least 300 times. I can still sing every song. :)
So here we are. Taylor and i are sitting on the couch (her cackling while i snort at the videos) and Berry is sitting in his dad's recliner with Ellie perched in his lap. It isn't fancy. We aren't dining out, enjoying the city life, or drinking 1/2 wine at some "sunday funday" location. But this is a perfect sunday night.
I remember watching it as a kid with my mom, dad, brother and sister. And watching it was a huge privilege as my parents only allowed us to watch 3 hours of tv a week. That's right- three hours. And it wasn't three hours the whole week. We weren't allowed to watch tv during the week except for NCB nightly news. THEN we had 3 hours of tv total to divide between friday, sat, and sun. If we went to a movie at the movie theater, then that counted for 2 hours. My parents were strict!
And don't even get me started on our weekly National Geographic reports.....
I am not that strict with Taylor. The tv was my best friend while i was at Duke because i was able to sit her in front of the tv and turn on Beauty and the Beast (her fav movie) and she would be entertained while i studied. I swear, we watched that movie at least 300 times. I can still sing every song. :)
So here we are. Taylor and i are sitting on the couch (her cackling while i snort at the videos) and Berry is sitting in his dad's recliner with Ellie perched in his lap. It isn't fancy. We aren't dining out, enjoying the city life, or drinking 1/2 wine at some "sunday funday" location. But this is a perfect sunday night.
Friday, October 15, 2010
Happy Birthday Tiberius!
I forgot to mention this!
Happy 3rd Birthday to Tiberius James- my big bloodhound puppy!
Happy 3rd Birthday to Tiberius James- my big bloodhound puppy!
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